Don’t say: “Lots of people are worse off than you are.”
千萬別說：“很多人比你情況更糟糕呢。”
Even if this is true, it doesn’t feel that way at the moment, and does not help your loved one. Being told she is needlessly feeling sorry for herself could make her feel even worse.
Don’t say: “No one ever said life was fair.”
千萬別說：“生活本來就是不公平的。”
This comes off as a dismissal of your friend’s feelings.
Don’t say: “Stop feeling sorry for yourself.”
千萬別說：“別再自顧自憐。”
Your friend does not know how to stop feeling depressed. Depression is a physical illness, like diabetes or heart disease, and sufferers cannot get over it just by trying harder.
Don’t say: “So you’re depressed. Aren’t you always?”
千萬別說：“你是不是總這么愁眉苦臉啊?”
This minimizes what can be a serious disorder.
Don’t say: “It’s your own fault.”
千萬別說：“這都你自己的錯。”
No one chooses depression.
Don’t say: “Believe me, I know how you feel. I was once depressed for several days.”
千萬別說：“相信我，我知道你的感受。我曾經郁悶了好幾天。”
Depression is different from just feeling sad or blue.